Build your tribe

The people we voluntarily surround ourselves with play an important role in defining who we are and where we stand in life. I would even go as far as to say that, to some extent, we become the people we are with.

In this journey called life, with everybody on their own unique path struggling to find their way and place, we find ourselves forming relationships with different individuals all the time. Whether it’s socially or at work. Some relationships develop into friendships, which may or may not last a lifetime, and again others will dissolve into thin air after a while. That’s life for you right there, a continuous flow of events and a coming and going of people.

On our journey to becoming the best versions of ourselves, it is important to focus on building our own supportive entourage – our own tribe of inspiring people, we can learn from, we can depend on and with whom we can move forward in life, rather than stand still. Because that’s what life is all about after all: moving forward with no regrets!

So, let’s focus on bringing people into our lives that reflect who we are and who we’d like to be. That being said, it is equally important to let go of people in our circle who don’t meet those criteria anymore. Holding on to relationships just for the sake of it, will just hold us back.

When I first embarked on my own journey of becoming the best version of myself a few years ago, I had to “let go” of quite a few friendships – some of which had lasted nearly a decade (wow, that makes me sound so old!). Quitting my prestigious job at the law firm was something a lot of my friends from uni could not understand and boy did they let me know they did not approve! Add my new found passion for fitness and health to that and the damage was done. They could not relate to me any more than I could to them. As painful a realization as it was, I have come to accept it for what it is: We went different ways. We had nothing to offer each other anymore. I was no longer interested in a career as a lawyer and they were not interested in listening to someone who contemplated becoming a group fitness instructor. I could have said I wanted to build a spaceship, it would have earned me the same confused looks and discouraging comments.

Distancing myself from them was the most difficult and yet best decision I ever made when it comes to relationships. By closing one door, another one opened soon after and I have formed new relationships with people, who share my passion and interest for fitness, who challenge me and who I find inspiring and interesting. I have no clue how long this will last (hopefully a for a very long time), but for now I am enjoying the ride and am going with the flow.

It’s funny how we change and find ourselves in a complete different place compared to only a year ago. Just 1.5 years ago, I’d spend my days talking about law and case files – today I discuss muscle strength and active post-workout recovery methods. Who knows what I’ll be interested in next year and what inspiring people I will have added to my tribe by then.

So, build your tribe and surround yourself with people who will empower you and challenge you to grasp life by its horns, rather than drag you down, or – even worse – keep you in the same spot, just because it’s convenient for them.

My new tribe and I …
together we are strong!

Β© 2017

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